Hey beauties, I hope your weekend has been amazing so far. What’s everyone been up to? I’ve been having a very chilled weekend, watching old episodes of Sex and the City, stuffing my face with my favourite chocolate from Finland, and thinking about where I am right now in my life and what the future holds now that my two year relationship has ended.
Do you ever just have those days where you sit and reflect and feel as though you’ve hit a major crossroad in your life and depending on which direction you take, you could end up with x, y, or xyz, for your future, and some or all of those paths scare the crap out of you?
Realisation… thanks to Jane Seymour
You know those books you read or movies you watch and there’s a defining moment in them that resonates with your soul, and you just never forget them no matter how old you get or where you are in life. Well, this happened to me over ten years ago when I read Jane Seymours book Remarkable Changes. I connected with her words more than I ever thought I would and from that moment, I’ve carried them with me like a little voice in the back in my head, reassuring me that no matter what, life will always work out exactly how it’s meant to. Mistakes, heartache, triumphs, because it’s shaping us all into the person we are destined to become.
Like Jane, I feel there comes a point in life, or many for that matter, when you reach a crossroads. Some may be smaller than others but each is a turning point, a defining moment shaping who we are and where we’re ultimately going. I’ve come to realise that I may not know in a weeks time, a months time, or even a year, why certain things in life happen, but eventually it’ll all make sense.
Reflecting… understanding why certain events in my life happened
Take for instance the time my friend pulled out of our 21 Day Contiki trip of Europe. I was 19, had never been overseas before and here I was at a crossroads. She was my safety net. The one familiar thing I would have whilst surround by a whole lot of unfamiliar. So what was I to do? Pull out and wait until she could go, or take a leap and go solo? Well, I mustered up the courage and decided to go solo.
Although slightly terrified, not only did my decision ignite my passion for travel (fast forward years later and here I am travelling the world, living abroad, with my own travel blog), but I also met a guy.
Thinking back on it now, if she hadn’t pulled out, I would have always sat next to her on the bus. I would have shared a room with her, visited the attractions with her and I would have never found my inner confidence. The confidence that pushed me to interact with strangers (and that guy) and realise I was great at forming new friendships and interacting in various social settings. It also made me realise I was capable of doing things I never thought possible. Like rely on myself to navigate around a foreign city. Which if you’ve met me, is no easy feat.
Fast forward a year later, and I was faced with another crossroad. That I guy I met, I now had to make the decision to either leave my family and start a life with him in his hometown state, or give him up and stick with what I knew.
The hopeless romanic that I am. I decided to move.
Because I believe you can’t ever move forward without taking some sort of risk. After a few years, the relationship didn’t work out. But moving was one of the best decisions I ever made.
At first I was upset. Upset and angry at myself for getting trapped in a relationship for so long with someone who wasn’t good for me. Thinking I should never have left home for this guy in the first place and thoroughly regretting my decision.
It wasn’t until two years later, when I had my own apartment, established my career path, made lifelong friends and became a strong independent women, that I realised, all of these things wouldn’t have happened without that relationship. The rollercoaster that it was, the many downs with very few ups, the journey I took with that relationship was absolutely necessary in shaping the woman I am today. Even if I didn’t see it at the time.
Life isn’t a straight road… crossroads are inevitable
The paths we choose aren’t always going to be easy. I’m living proof that they’re not. But by facing every crossroad head on, trusting that whatever decision we choose is always going to be the right one, is all we can do. I’ve come to learn that whether I choose path A or path B, my decision will always be the right one.
The spiritual side of me believes our individual destinies are already mapped out for us, we may divert a few times along the way, but the universe will always guide us back to where we’re meant to be one way or another.
My Current Crossroad… decisions, decisions
Just when I thought everything was set in stone for me, the universe has demonstrated that life is, well, unpredictable. My most recent relationship has come to an end, and after quitting my job (as we’d planned on spending our summer together in Greece), I now find myself without work to pay my bills, and on the other side of the world to my closest family and friends.
So the way I see it, I have two options. Get on a plane, go home back to Australia and start over, or ride this emotional roller coaster, build myself back up and continue my travels solo.
At 31 years of age, that number indicates to many where I should be in life right now. Married with kids or at least headed in that direction. Settled in a job and saving to buy a house. But I mean, who made those “idealistic” life goals and timeframes anyway?
At the beginning of this post I wasn’t sure which way I should go. But after sharing my thoughts and getting them down on paper, it’s clear to me which path I should take. I’m going to stay abroad, take the leap to travel solo and see where life takes me. I’ve come too far and grown too much to latch onto any kind of safety blanket.
My life’s journey so far has shaped who I am today, so I know this next chapter will only make me stronger and more of the woman I’m meant to become.
Living my everyday life, facing every challenge, every setback, every opportunity, every triumph, and every person that comes into my life and everyone that leaves, just knowing and reminding myself that these are all touch points in my journey to where I’m eventually meant to end up, is how I know I’m making the right decision.
My Advice… drawing from personal experience
Whatever crossroad you come upon in life, whether it’s university related, career related, family or love, my philosophy is, try not to see it as one decision is right and the other is wrong. See it as an opportunity. That whichever way you decide to go, it’s merely an opening for something else. Always follow your heart and don’t make decisions based on what you think you should do, or what you think others would want you to do. Only you know what’s ultimately best for your heart and soul.